family-relationships

Pick Your Battles: The AA Guide to Premarital Counseling (Part 4)

Pick Your Battles: The AA Guide to Premarital Counseling (Part 4)

Ben Shin

The goal of this series has been to try and understand some of these cultural dynamics that Asian Americans go through that may be overlooked in the many books on the subject of pre-marital counseling and marriage. For the final installment, I will now give some advice on how to resolve some of these tensions that we’ve…

Illuminating Relational Dynamics: The AA Guide to Premarital counseling (Part 3)

Illuminating Relational Dynamics: The AA Guide to Premarital counseling (Part 3)

Ben Shin

In this post, I’d like to discuss some of the challenges related to the relational dynamics of the different families prior to marriage and the wedding ceremony. This will include “family matching,” approval of different vocations, and the transfer of authority from the father and mother to the husband and wife. These issues…

Telling Our Stories: Taiwanese Immigrants and Chinese Refugees

Telling Our Stories: Taiwanese Immigrants and Chinese Refugees

SOLA Network

The stories of Asian immigrants and their families have started to become more culturally mainstream with the rise of films like Crazy Rich Asians and The Farewell. But for those of us who are descended from migrants, these stories have surrounded us. We lived with our grandparents or parents as they spoke with accented…

The Venue & the Guest List: The AA Guide to Premarital Counseling (Part 2)

The Venue & the Guest List: The AA Guide to Premarital Counseling (Part 2)

Ben Shin

Now that we’ve discussed some aspects of family relationships when it comes to premarital counseling, let’s get more specific. I want to examine two Asian dynamics that influence the upcoming wedding ceremony — the honor-shame dynamic and the concept of collectivist thinking — and how they might play out in wedding.…